When you look out of your window what you are looking at is the next moment of the unfolding of the universe. What you are seeing is the direct result of all the moments that happened before. A mind – blowingly long time before. The unfolding of the universe began 13.8 billion years ago at the time of “The Big Bang”. I’m guessing you’d agree that had...

It’s completely human to blame people, places and things in the outside world for the problems we have inside of us. Also most of us try to seek, get or change things in the outside world to try to feel better inside of us. It’s not wrong. It just doesn’t work. It can’t work. The reason is that you didn’t make the outside world and therefore you...

The funny things about us human beings is that we are literally spinning around on a rock in the middle of nowhere and we are stressing out if we get ketchup on our new shirt! We live in just one of three trillion galaxies that make up the universe and we think our own personal problems are such a big deal. Boy have we lost perspective. We can use our Mind to get some perspective...

Ever had a catchy, repetitive pop song stuck in your head for days? Annoying isn’t it. But the fact that our Minds have the ability to do this, means we can create and have playing in our minds much more useful things. “I can handle it”…”I can handle it”…”I can handle it”… for instance. Now wouldn’t that be a much more useful thing for your Mind...

There are two possible types of learning from painful or difficult experiences in our past. The first is a physical learning. If you put your hand on a hot kettle when you are a kid you learn not to do it again. It does not create any anxiety in you when you see a hot kettle the next time – does it? But if you have an emotionally difficult experience it’s a completely different...

Life will show us where we are blocked, if we allow it to do so.  Then it is a question of knowing two other things.  Firstly that we can handle the disturbance, emotion inside of us that is blocked. You see eventually if we give it the space and room, it will leave us when it is ready not when we are.  And secondly, we see that releasing the blockages inside of us...

Although CBT is a therapy that predominantly focuses time, effort, change, and attention on the things that are creating an experience in the present day. CBT does not just stop there. CBT also recognises that our past has a huge influence on who we are in present day.  How we think and how we behave.  For a therapist to disregard or ignore this fact when treating a patient...

“Be Open to Life” is not a cheesy bumper sticker. It’s an essential way of being if you want to have a nice life. The opposite is being closed to life and shutting off from the experiences you are having. Particularly the “difficult” ones. The consequences of doing this are catastrophic and the damage done is invisible but nevertheless real.

What actually in this life are we responsible for?   This is an important question because if we take responsibility for things that we’re not actually responsible for that is a massive problem.  Actually one of the interesting things about us human beings, is we often take responsibility for things that are not our responsibility and often avoid taking...

When it comes to meditation it is very important to let go of the expectations we put on ourselves and of the meditation itself. We need to take all these pressures off ourselves. It’s really unkind to expect so much. Particularly as Meditation is one of the hardest things you can do. We expect our mind to be instantly clear. We expect to feel better straight away. We expect to...